Find your way
back to connection.
A space to understand one another, navigate painful patterns, and work toward a stronger relationship.
More than the same argument
Do you feel stuck having the same argument over and over again that leaves you feeling exhausted, misunderstood, and lonely in the same house? Perhaps a devastating betrayal or an affair has shattered your foundation, leaving you wondering if trust can ever be restored. Are you and your spouse living two separate lives where it feels more like you are roommates and the romance has died out?
I see marriage as a relationship with the potential for deep connection and growth. Our work makes room for the difficulties you face and the hopes you hold for your life together.
What we can work on
Communication & connection
Does it feel like you and your spouse are out of sync and aren’t connecting or expressing your needs adequately? Do you suddenly feel like strangers with your spouse? My therapeutic method is informed by both Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method, the two Gold Standards in Couples Counseling. We will utilize these modalities to help you build a deeper connection, learn each other’s emotional patterns, and give practical structural blueprints to avoid the pitfalls that have plagued your marriage.
Trust and Infidelity
We long to be able to commit our hearts to another. What do we do when our trust is broken? We will explore betrayal-whether it be financial, sexual, or emotional. Trust can be rebuilt! We will explore ways of implementing healthy boundaries in the relationship, stabilizing the relationship, and giving a secure space to explore and process the hurt and work towards healing.
Conflict Resolution
We will explore tools to help you and your spouse learn how to resolve conflicts and reach a healthy compromise. We will explore your attachment styles and the way you both approach conflict.
Sex and Pornography Addiction
Pornography is a killer of a healthy marriage. The marital act is a beautiful gift that is meant to be shared and enjoyed within the intimacy of your married life. We will help stabilize the marriage from the betrayal that is felt after discovering your spouse is engaging in these unwanted behaviors. We will also explore the underlying reasons that are keeping your spouse stuck in these unwanted cycles. We will establish healthy boundaries and set up a plan to help you both find healing in your lives and to thrive once more in your marriage.
Parenting
Do you find yourself having conflicts on how to raise children? Are you lost on how to meet the needs of a particular child? Unfortunately, we never received the blueprints of how to be parents. I will help you and your spouse explore your upbringing to see how parenting was modeled for you both. We will learn core communication skills informed from the following modalities: Relational Enhancement Therapy (RE), The Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. These modalities will help us become more emotionally attuned to each other, give us structure to navigate our disagreements, become more empathetic to each other’s point of view, and come to a more unified decision making process.
Preparing for marriage
If you are seriously dating or engaged, counseling can be useful in helping you gain deeper insight into one another. I will walk beside you both as you learn healthy ways of communicating, explore wounds and strengths that we bring from our families of origin, learn the principles for making marriage work, and become more attuned to each other emotionally. My therapeutic lens is informed by The Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Relationship Enhancement Therapy (RE).
My approach with couples
My work is informed by the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Relationship Enhancement Therapy. I have completed extensive trainings in the Gottman Method therapy (Levels 1 & 2 completed) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT externship completed). These approaches inform our exploration of emotional patterns, connection, and practical relationship skills.
Faith can be integrated according to your wishes.
A path toward healing. Room to flourish.
You don’t need to have everything figured out. Let’s talk about what brings you here and how I might help.